reporting the weather: it is not your job to make someone else feel comfortable by what you are going to say. what is your job, is to tell the truth of how you feel; respecting the importance of your own inner weather. you might take time to find the most gentle and honoring way to tell it, but you tell it. you do not, not tell it. how someone reacts, responds, etc… is theirs. and though it may be difficult to watch someone you care about encounter hard emotions, that is for them to work through/their experience. you do not help them or save them by denying yourself air. in fact, you only serve to create more of a distance between you and your own soul; a distance in the true intimacy between you and them. your soul and theirs knows this is not love. this is not love, rigging your weather reports.